Last week, my son invited me to take him out for a hot chocolate after school. My husband’s reaction was similar to mine: “Is this for his benefit, or yours?” I suspect it’s for me.
It might have been prompted by the on-line questionnaire I asked him to complete to find his ‘love language’. Everyone else I know who’s tried it has found it very helpful. But the questions assume your child thinks touch is a good thing and wants more rather than less attention from his family. Twelve years in, and other than defending him from the contact-driven love of his siblings, and helping him with his homework, I’m still at sea as to what exactly he needs from me. But he’s obviously thought about it and decided that to feel loved, his mother needs his time. Hence the hot chocolate. I am very proud of him.